It totally cracks me up and never ceases to amaze me how people put themselves up on pedestals. They are so quick to "judge" others and point fingers and yet they are doing the very thing they are jumping on others for. It's funny how people think they have been so perfect in handling situations and being so polished and "good" when they are the entire reason they are in the place they are in. I tend to think about things a lot, I don't hold on to them - I don't let them affect me but I do try and understand WHY people do the things they do. They whine and cry and make everyone feel sorry for them, I guess it's a desperate need for attention. I admit that there are time when I whine a little because I need some encouragement but usually its about every day kinda crap not about big issues that I've brought on myself. Just leave it alone already!
On another note, my husband is a strong person - he can think for himself and usually does. He doesn't have to ask my permission to do things although he's always kind enough to run things by me and I always encourage him to have guy friends and get out with them and do things. He's found a great friend in his boss at work. They've done quite a few "guy" things together and I'm so glad because I know that every true man needs guy time just like every true girl needs girl time! There are things that our spouses just can't do for us - there are guy things I just don't want to do with Beej and there are girly things he just doesn't want to do with me and that's how I like it! He's a man, I'm a woman! I don't think for him and he doesn't think for me. We have different opinions on things and different likes and dislikes. We do have things in common too and that's why we are great together. I used to know someone who always talked about her husband's ex-girlfriend - she always laughed that when he was with his ex he was shoved up her butt and only peeked out occasionally to greet the world and be seen. It always made me laugh because if you knew this couple you would know that he's now shoved so far up his wife's "butt" that he never "peeks" out! I'm glad to say that as much as I love and adore Beej and as much as he loves me I don't think for him! And that's a good thing! I admire men who are thoughtful and understanding towards their wives, we love them and cherish them and think of them ahead of themselves but there needs to be a healthy independence even between husband and wife. I heard a quote the other day that I totally fell in love with - it said, "