Monday, February 15, 2010

Addressing Issues....

It totally cracks me up and never ceases to amaze me how people put themselves up on pedestals. They are so quick to "judge" others and point fingers and yet they are doing the very thing they are jumping on others for. It's funny how people think they have been so perfect in handling situations and being so polished and "good" when they are the entire reason they are in the place they are in. I tend to think about things a lot, I don't hold on to them - I don't let them affect me but I do try and understand WHY people do the things they do. They whine and cry and make everyone feel sorry for them, I guess it's a desperate need for attention. I admit that there are time when I whine a little because I need some encouragement but usually its about every day kinda crap not about big issues that I've brought on myself. Just leave it alone already!
On another note, my husband is a strong person - he can think for himself and usually does. He doesn't have to ask my permission to do things although he's always kind enough to run things by me and I always encourage him to have guy friends and get out with them and do things. He's found a great friend in his boss at work. They've done quite a few "guy" things together and I'm so glad because I know that every true man needs guy time just like every true girl needs girl time! There are things that our spouses just can't do for us - there are guy things I just don't want to do with Beej and there are girly things he just doesn't want to do with me and that's how I like it! He's a man, I'm a woman! I don't think for him and he doesn't think for me. We have different opinions on things and different likes and dislikes. We do have things in common too and that's why we are great together. I used to know someone who always talked about her husband's ex-girlfriend - she always laughed that when he was with his ex he was shoved up her butt and only peeked out occasionally to greet the world and be seen. It always made me laugh because if you knew this couple you would know that he's now shoved so far up his wife's "butt" that he never "peeks" out! I'm glad to say that as much as I love and adore Beej and as much as he loves me I don't think for him! And that's a good thing! I admire men who are thoughtful and understanding towards their wives, we love them and cherish them and think of them ahead of themselves but there needs to be a healthy independence even between husband and wife. I heard a quote the other day that I totally fell in love with - it said, "

Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality." I couldn't agree more. If you try to find your security in another person they will always let you down. But if you are a secure and strong person in yourself on your own then you can bring something real to a relationship.

So my final thought today is before you go accusing others of things make sure you take the "plank" out of your own eye first. Because usually the things that bother you the most about other people are probably problems you have in your own life that you are just choosing to ignore. It's not that hard to get a long with people when you try to get a long with people who want to get a long! Lol! Honesty is the best policy, always, but you have to be friends with someone who can handle the truth. Luckily, I have such a friend. I can be down right honest with her and if I upset her she is just straight up and tells me. She doesn't hold on to it and then make a big deal about it later or throw it up in face over and over. We deal with it and if I apologize with sincerity then she's quick to forgive and move on. It's impossible to be friends with someone who isn't like that - otherwise you will always been walking on eggshells and telling people what you "think" they want to hear to try and keep them happy. What kind of a friend is that?! I'm thankful, once again, to have a wonderful friend by my side!!! I love her dearly!


  1. We must be on the same page today! lol Are you super excited about your weekend? I hope you guys have an amazing time!

  2. We are on that same page or we looked at the same page! Haha! Either way......and yes, I am so excited about our weekend!!!