I have contemplated writing this post for awhile and I figure some people are going to totally disagree with me and that's ok. But I hear it almost DAILY and it bothers me. "Everything happens for a reason." or "It must have been God's plan....." It's easy to say that and honestly I've probably said it before until I realized one day that it was simply another way of blaming God but making ourselves feel better. And most of the time it's only said after something bad happens. Why? Does it make us feel better to have some one to blame? Does that make it better?
Here is the thing some things just happen. Period. Life happens. Things happen every day that are simply products of human error, natural happenstance. People who get pregnant when they didn't want to or plan to doesn't mean that it was God's plan for them to have it baby. It means they had sex with someone and didn't use birth control. True, that child can end up being a huge blessing but that doesn't mean it was necessarily God's plan. He didn't make you get pregnant when you didn't want to. It was human error. Because someone dies in a car accident does NOT mean it was "their time to go" - maybe it was someone stupidly driving while they were drunk, or someone not paying attention. Human error.
Do you understand my point? It's not God's fault - it's human nature to blame someone or something else for things that go wrong in our lives. It does not make the things that happen any less sad, any less devastating, any less crushing. But just because something did or didn't happen doesn't mean that it was the "right" thing for that moment. Maybe it was actually the wrong thing but that's not God's fault. It's a result of human nature and human error. Simple as that.