Sugar Coated Lies Rot The Heart

Don't you just hate it when people whine? When they complain constantly about all the wrong done to them? How many times they've been hurt over the years, how they can't trust anyone? It gets old especially when they themselves have hurt people over and over and over again. They are the ones that cast judgment on those around them, belittled everyone, and made everyone who tried to be apart of their lives feel insignificant and worthless. I'm not competitive, sure I like to win but I won't fight for something especially when in the end it's pretty worthless. I don't fight to stay someone's friend, if they can't put as much effort into a friendship as I'm trying to then it's not worth it. No, I'm not all about equal give and take, that's it's always 50/50 but I do believe that if you are always the one trying and going out of your way and it's never returned you will stop trying. I know I have. I read a blog recently that I follow and in so many words this person was expressing a frustration over lost friendships, over past frustrations and trials with so called "friends". My heart went out to her immediately because it's like I find myself in that situation over and over again. And just like her I've asked myself, I am doing something wrong? Is it me? Because I don't want to be one of those people who ALWAYS blames the other person. If I'm in the wrong I'll admit it, it may take some time but I'll admit it. I recently had to admit being wrong in a situation with a friend, someone who had been loyal and trustworthy and I treated her terribly. I didn't see it at the time because I couldn't see the whole picture.....but I had to shore up and admit that. Thankfully, not only is she loyal and trustworthy but she was also forgiving and forgot that I had screwed up. But I get tired of people who constantly sabotage their relationships with people. I think they do it just because they like drama and they like to have someone to blame when they feel like crap about themselves and how they are. It's never their fault, it's "so-in-so" that hurt me. Sure. Or maybe it's the fact that they pretend to be so sweet and loving, to that point that their words drip with syrupy-ness. Ugh. Most of the time I've found that people who have to over indulge or exaggerate their lives, their love, their likes, themselves are probably trying to convince themselves. Things become too rehearsed and over the top. After a while you start to feel like nothing you can say or do is good enough or "tops" them. Not that it's about that but some people make their lies out to be so good that you feel like you can never add up. I like real people, down to earth people who are just themselves. Even if that means they are screwed up in some areas, if they are willing to admit that truthfully and openly then they are probably pretty honest and insincere in other areas! I want so badly to "go off" on some people - people who are like what I described above, over indulgers. But I know it will do no good, they only see themselves and the people they can control with their mind games. No matter how much truth you "yell" at them their ears are so full of lies they'll never hear. And maybe it's best that way - maybe it's best to leave them rotting in their own "sweetness" - too much sugar rots the teeth - too many sugar coated lies rot the heart.